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The Christian Dating Scene For Black Women Is A Jungle.
Maybe this is part one. Maybe there will be a series. Dating as a Black, Christian abstinent woman is a form of sanctification. Yes, you read that correctly, sanctification. I would have written “persecution” but I’m aware that my hyperbole may be too excessive, so sanctification will do just fine. Sanctification noun [ U ]…
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Christian Women Should Date Multiple People..
A reminder to you (even to myself, as I tend to write for myself ) to date/ get to know people more widely and not eliminate anyone until mutuality (the kind that precedes a relationship) has been expressed. Before I proceed, it’s important to preface the article with this; Let no one be an authority for you…
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Christians, Stop Dating To Marry…
This will probably not be the first, nor will it be the last time that I write on this (because sadly we malign the topic daily) but there is a weird Christian dating culture. The Christian dating culture introduced us to concepts like “date only in group settings”; “Holy Spirit hugs (you know, don’t hug…
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How Millennials Changed The Dating Game
Someone asked me once to expound on the “talking” phase. I was extremely flattered that they considered me wise enough to divulge on such a contentious topic but I was also confused as to how to start explaining a phenomenon I myself wasn’t too familiar with or particularly liked. Before delving into any more detail,…
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Message to Christian Girls, Stop Having A Type…
We all have our physical types. However, for the Christian woman actively dating (or at least scoping the market), having a type cripples her success with men. To explain to a readership who knows very little about me, I like chocolate men. I like my men the colour of a Twix bar minus the caramel.…
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8 Women You Shouldn’t Date (According to Men)
Disclaimer: I didn’t want to write this but they made me do it. I guess I had to considering some men felt a little hurt by 5 Men You Shouldn’t Date and seeing as I’m all for equality it made sense to at least publish a follow up post. Before I delve into the list…
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5 Ways To Cope With Valentine’s Day Whilst Single..
Valentine’s day has become something of a duel between singles and couples. Couples generally take the opportunity to show their loved “one” how much they mean to them by way of a gift. The gift can range from chocolates, to flowers, to a date or a holiday, depending on how much emphasis you both place…
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Can I Rent A Valentine?
“Would you rent when you could own?” – Anon. Do you remember when you were young ( I mean really young, think 10 years ago) and you wanted to ask a question in class? You would always weigh up the pros and cons of asking this question because the last thing you wanted was to…
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There Aren’t Enough Christian Men…
I’m sorry to burst your bubble so early into the article. I’m sorry for not setting the scene before ruining the ending but it has to be said, there aren’t enough Christian men. Granted I haven’t come to this conclusion by way of any scientific experiment. No sample has been taken. No survey has been…
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For Christians Who Date…
This is a product of numerous conversations with people from vast theological backgrounds and my personal research. This is not your final authority because that is the function of the word of God. This should hopefully evoke some feeling. Finally, this may not sit well with you but here goes.. 1.There is no one. The…
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Don’t Go Wasting Your Proverbs 31 On A Bozo…
The Proverbs 31 woman might be the most referenced woman in the entire Bible . The woman without a name has become the prototype for womanhood in Christ. She is honoured for her noble character, her worth more than rubies, her goodness, her eager hands, her culinary skills and her generosity. She is diligent with…
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“I Ain’t Saying She A Gold Digger…”
If you are a regular visitor to The Promiscious Pen you will know that I draw inspiration from an array of things most especially songs by my favourite artists , such as Kanye West (whom I used to be in love with, no really I was head over heels until Kanye became Kimye) and Drake (my…
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Why We Hate Love…
I wish to preface this article. This one’s for the grown – ups, for the over 18’s amongst us. No children allowed. We hate love. You’re probably wondering why I have made such a bold statement and yes I am aware of how sombre that statement sounded( blame it on my emo past, yes…
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Because Not All Men Cheat…
I have a problem with the assertion that all men cheat and my reasons will become apparent shortly. I do feel like I’ve been writing a lot for the boys lately (see “What Solange taught me about Domestic Violence”) but I just can’t shake off the need to speak on the labels that have been…