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The Christian Dating Scene For Black Women Is A Jungle.
Maybe this is part one. Maybe there will be a series. Dating as a Black, Christian abstinent woman is a form of sanctification. Yes, you read that correctly, sanctification. I would have written “persecution” but I’m aware that my hyperbole may be too excessive, so sanctification will do just fine. Sanctification noun [ U ]…
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Christian Women Should Date Multiple People..
A reminder to you (even to myself, as I tend to write for myself ) to date/ get to know people more widely and not eliminate anyone until mutuality (the kind that precedes a relationship) has been expressed. Before I proceed, it’s important to preface the article with this; Let no one be an authority for you…
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Christian (unmarried) Women Have High Sex Drives Too..
This one’s for unmarried women because married women have husbands to play with 😛 The lens in which we view sexuality in the church is very male. Our religious attitudes seem to be dominated by this very laddish culture which acknowledges men as hyper-sexual beings whilst giving little credence to women and their needs. Transparent…
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Do Christians Over-Complicate Dating?
Nothing in life seems more confusing than listening to a sample of Christians discuss their dating experiences and I’ve spent a good few years listening to some of the trauma. Ok trauma might be an exaggeration, but the Christian dating scene does seem quite bleak. Type the title into any search bar and you’ll be…
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Christians, Stop Dating To Marry…
This will probably not be the first, nor will it be the last time that I write on this (because sadly we malign the topic daily) but there is a weird Christian dating culture. The Christian dating culture introduced us to concepts like “date only in group settings”; “Holy Spirit hugs (you know, don’t hug…
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Holy and Horny
Yes, I did just put holy and horny in the same sentence. Yes we are going to discuss these adjectives in tandem because they are not mutually exclusive and yes the article might make you feel a little uncomfortable but through discomfort we learn and/ unlearn. I’m not sure how many people will appreciate the…
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Black Men Don’t Do Celibacy But Black Women Do – Could All the Celibate Black Men Please Stand Up?
Some years ago, Eminem was spotted in a hospital waiting room looking for the real slim shady. Fast forward a few years and I’m looking for the celibate black man. I’m celibate (as you may already be aware) and celibacy for the most part has been relatively easy sans the fact that I regularly meet…
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You’re Single Because You’re Picky.
“I refuse to settle” – No, you’re simply refusing to give up on your fantasy. Being picky has absolutely nothing to do with having standards. Some single people (myself included) simply do not know how to see beyond themselves neither do they know how to see beyond perfection. Last night I tweeted something spectacular, “When…
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2016, Year of Bae…
The word crept up on us. Whether we wanted to or not, we found ourselves using it. I don’t even like the word. It’s a silly term most likely coined by someone who probably wasn’t even in a relationship (or an American) but it has since become the go to word of endearment, displacing the…
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All Your Friends Are Getting Married and Having Babies And You’re Like…
“Every 15 seconds, a woman is proposed to. Please dial 322 – help me find a beau, if you’re not that woman. “ If you’re over the age of 21, I’m sure you’re experiencing this. Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and other social media sites that I have forgotten to mention are daily reminders that all your…
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Bae-Watch
I would hope that many of us are familiar with the show Bay- Watch (if not cue Google) and so will appreciate the word play in the title. However, this article has no semblance to the TV series that revolved around lifeguards in red hot swimming costumes, that captured millions. This isn’t even an article…
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Situationships.
The ascent of the “sidechick culture” has led me to the following conclusions: There has been a change in the way we perceive relationships and if you disagree then it means you have either been fortunate enough to have been surrounded by perfect examples or you are simply failing to see the wood for the…
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“I Ain’t Saying She A Gold Digger…”
If you are a regular visitor to The Promiscious Pen you will know that I draw inspiration from an array of things most especially songs by my favourite artists , such as Kanye West (whom I used to be in love with, no really I was head over heels until Kanye became Kimye) and Drake (my…