***********DISCLAIMER**********

I am not a hopeless romantic.

I don’t usually like to dabble in emotional sentiments, I leave that for all the Drake types amongst us ( for your information Drake is my favourite artist, his songs are music to my eyes and so that statement should not be read as a attack on Drake’s character lol). However, I do feel compelled to write this piece for all the undercover admirers out there who are in two minds about their crush.

I wish to make it clear from the start that I am not speaking about primary school crushes or even secondary school crushes for the following reasons. Firstly, because I assume the reader has surpassed those educational pit-stops and secondly, because I have surpassed those educational pit-stops.

When we think of the word “crush” our minds automatically associate it with  the juvenile “feelings” our pre-puberty selves had for chubby Alex in year 5, skinny Sue in year two or the neighbourhood bad boy who used to have cornrows in his hair, an ear piercing and wore two chains. However, I am not talking about the naive type of crush that has us hooked at those impressionable stages in our lives, I’m talking about a feeling that could potentially be love if we gave it room to grow.

Whenever I intend on writing something I like to gather my thoughts first by looking to my sidekick,who also goes by the name dictionary and  the term “crush”  is defined as a burning desire to be with someone who you find very attractive and extremely special. I didn’t feel like this definition properly captured what I wanted it to and so I remixed it: a burning desire based on an informed decision i.e time spent with that person in order to determine their character and not solely because you find them physically attractive but because their whole being makes them special.  Unlike our younger crushes that were sort of illogical (especially if like me you used to fancy the neighbourhood bad-boy with cornrows, gold teeth and two chains) these crushes are based on real experiences with these people and for that reason I don’t think they should be  easily dismissed. I think  you should explore these feelings but with wisdom.

I am in no way suggesting that we act on every kind of romantic inkling because that would go against my definition which states that it should be based on an informed decision , I’m simply suggesting that we act more when the feeling we are feeling has great potential to become something  substantial and beautiful. It is rather puzzling that we become so hesitant when confronted with real emotion for another person   but I guess that’s the human psyche- always protecting itself.

You could finish this post utterly confused by what you have just read  (please say you’re not confused lol) or you could truly have grasped what I’m trying to get at (I’m hoping for the latter).  However, I can only pray that if you are yet to profess your undying love,  you know that burning desire based on an informed decision i.e time spent with that person in order to determine their character, then do so before they get a husband/wife, a mortgage and kids.  Pretty please.

Remember kids, having (something more than) a crush on that same person in your late 50’s because you were too scared to act on it in your early 20’s is kind of pitiful.

Love you muchos,

Cris x

p.s I do not only write about love, so expect some politics soon x