The Christian Dating Scene For Black Women Is A Jungle.
Maybe this is part one. Maybe there will be a series. Dating as a Black, Christian abstinent woman is a form of sanctification. Yes, you read that correctly, sanctification. I would have written “persecution” but I’m aware that my hyperbole may be too excessive, so sanctification will do just fine. Sanctification noun [ U ] […]
When Did It Become A Crime To Be Black?
Three days ago, I noticed that a name was circulating on my Twitter time line. The name was Ahmaud Arbery. Admittedly, I didn’t pay the name any mind at first, as the tweets were quite infrequent, so the severity of the situation didn’t register. Then I went to Instagram and again I saw this same […]
Christian (unmarried) Women Have High Sex Drives Too..
This one’s for unmarried women because married women have husbands to play with 😛 The lens in which we view sexuality in the church is very male. Our religious attitudes seem to be dominated by this very laddish culture which acknowledges men as hyper-sexual beings whilst giving little credence to women and their needs. Transparent […]
Do Christians Over-Complicate Dating?
Nothing in life seems more confusing than listening to a sample of Christians discuss their dating experiences and I’ve spent a good few years listening to some of the trauma. Ok trauma might be an exaggeration, but the Christian dating scene does seem quite bleak. Type the title into any search bar and you’ll be […]
This one’s for the people waiting for marriage to have sex….
I really couldn’t think of a better title so here goes…. oh you’re a virgin.” “No way, are you a virgin. How old are you?” “mid twenties” “No way are you in your mid twenties and still a virgin.” “ Yes,way” “and you’ve never given oral?” “no.. no oral..” “nahhh I don’t believe you. You have a sexual aura, I don’t believe […]
Christians, Stop Dating To Marry…
This will probably not be the first, nor will it be the last time that I write on this (because sadly we malign the topic daily) but there is a weird Christian dating culture. The Christian dating culture introduced us to concepts like “date only in group settings”; “Holy Spirit hugs (you know, don’t hug […]
Black Men Don’t Do Celibacy But Black Women Do – Could All the Celibate Black Men Please Stand Up?
Some years ago, Eminem was spotted in a hospital waiting room looking for the real slim shady. Fast forward a few years and I’m looking for the celibate black man. I’m celibate (as you may already be aware) and celibacy for the most part has been relatively easy sans the fact that I regularly meet […]
Buhari’s Sexism & Nigeria’s Gender Problem
It’s come to my recent attention that my president recently said something quite outrageous about women to one of the greatest women in recent political history. On a visit to Germany, General Buhari was heard saying “I don’t know which party my wife belongs to, but she belongs to my kitchen and my living room […]
He Wasn’t Man Enough For Me…
Our infatuation with bad guys is forcing the nice guys to rethink their strategy. This article is a return to what I’m quite passionate about and that is the dynamics between male and female and our perceptions of the opposite sex. It’s an article that should explain the ramifications of using baseless statements to define an entire gender. […]
“Brothers in Christ with no Game” The Event 28th February 2014
You are all cordially invited to my talk, where we will be discussing one of my recent articles “Brothers In Christ with No game”. The night is going to be filled with debate, good food, great company, a ‘lil speed dating and good music. Bring tons of friends , a £2 donation and your opinions!!!! […]