Category: Miscellaneous

  • No Kissing Before Marriage Too?

    No Kissing Before Marriage Too?

    “There is nothing necessary about kissing your partner before marriage.” Years ago I read a piece about a husband and wife who had not kissed until after their wedding vows and I remember thinking hard about how awkward that first kiss would have been. I also remember thinking there’s no way I could forfeit sex…

  • Christians Are Doing Abstinence All Wrong.

    Christians Are Doing Abstinence All Wrong.

    I live on twitter. I’m slowly weaning myself off twitter because firstly it is a major distraction and secondly the ratio of slander to praise is ridiculously high. However, I do find myself scrolling up and down my Apple screen just before bed, hoping to catch a few giggles before I fall asleep. On this…

  • Buhari’s Sexism & Nigeria’s Gender Problem

    Buhari’s Sexism & Nigeria’s Gender Problem

    It’s come to my recent attention that my president recently said something quite outrageous about women to one of the greatest women in recent political history. On a visit to Germany, General Buhari was heard saying “I don’t know which party my wife belongs to, but she belongs to my kitchen and my living room…

  • Christians Are Getting Married Younger Because They Can’t Wait For Sex.

    Christians Are Getting Married Younger Because They Can’t Wait For Sex.

    This isn’t a sermon. The statement formed part of the conversation that I recently had with a non-believer. She asked for my opinion on pre-marital sex and when I offered it, the conversation then moved to the sexuality of millennial Christians, young marriages and our sexual urges. She wanted my opinion on Christians getting married…

  • The Black Community & The Black Saviour Complex…

    The Black Community & The Black Saviour Complex…

    “Formation” stirred up varying emotions within me, one of them being sadness.  I explore what I have termed the black saviour complex.  I loved Blue Ivy’s cameo. I loved that in a single line, Beyonce tells those who criticise her husband’s aesthetics where to stick it.  I even loved the braids. Beyonce released “formation”  without…