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The Christian Dating Scene For Black Women Is A Jungle.
Maybe this is part one. Maybe there will be a series. Dating as a Black, Christian abstinent woman is a form of sanctification. Yes, you read that correctly, sanctification. I would have written “persecution” but I’m aware that my hyperbole may be too excessive, so sanctification will do just fine. Sanctification noun [ U ] […]
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Acne & Hyperpigmentation– How I Went From That To This
I have been meaning to write this article for a very long time. I probably shied away from writing and publishing it because I didn’t think that my skin was perfect enough to start publicising skin care tips. That changed when I tweeted a thread related to hyperpigmentation and I got direct messages from women […]
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Do Christians Over-Complicate Dating?
Nothing in life seems more confusing than listening to a sample of Christians discuss their dating experiences and I’ve spent a good few years listening to some of the trauma. Ok trauma might be an exaggeration, but the Christian dating scene does seem quite bleak. Type the title into any search bar and you’ll be […]
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You’re Single Because You’re Picky.
“I refuse to settle” – No, you’re simply refusing to give up on your fantasy. Being picky has absolutely nothing to do with having standards. Some single people (myself included) simply do not know how to see beyond themselves neither do they know how to see beyond perfection. Last night I tweeted something spectacular, “When […]
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All Your Friends Are Getting Married and Having Babies And You’re Like…
“Every 15 seconds, a woman is proposed to. Please dial 322 – help me find a beau, if you’re not that woman. “ If you’re over the age of 21, I’m sure you’re experiencing this. Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and other social media sites that I have forgotten to mention are daily reminders that all your […]
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Submission Is Not A Curse Word: Submission 101
There’s always something missing from the contemporary submission debate and that is the part where the husband loves the woman the way Christ loves the Church. A blog post on submission has played on my mind for some time now, however my fear was that the content would read like a rant as opposed to an article and […]
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“How Many Ladies in The House Without A Spouse?”
“How many ladies in the house, how many ladies in the house without a spouse. Something in your blouse got me feeling so aroused. What you about? On that independent ish, trade it all for a husband and some kids.” – Kanye West , I wonder This has got to be one of my favourite […]
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The Big Booty Effect
I have a small derrière. This is quite an outlandish way to begin a post but I’m in the business of outlandish statements, so it really should not come as a surprise. If you know me in real life, then you know I’m also besotted with my “booty”, always strategically calculating how much chicken […]
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Dear Men, We Like Beards…
I remember a while back when I was fawning over a picture of a man with thick , dark facial hair (my usual passe-temps) and a friend of mine thought it necessary to comment on what he considered an obsessive preoccupation with beards and although his accusation was accurate ( I was clearly infatuated with […]
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Keep Your Nudes Away Because Hackers Don’t Play…
Two weeks ago a host of celebrities were victims of cyber intrusion by hackers who began circulating images of them in the nude. Today again another group of female celebrities have been victims of social hacking and as a result have found their naked photos floating online. This trend of hacking into what were […]
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Strong, Black Womanhood.
We subscribe to things we do not quite understand and endorse them without fully realising how detrimental those things can be. The concept of “self fulfilling prophecy” is powerful and accurate especially with regards to stereotypes because we tend to become the labels placed on us. We begin to imitate the stereotype, often times wearing […]
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I Am Not My Hair: The Politics Behind A Black Female’s Hair
“You are not a freedom fighter because you have natural hair neither is your relaxed hair a product of white supremacy. Stop the madness.” Cristine Edusi This one’s for the coloured girls who critique each other on their choice of hair style because apparently the style of hair determines your level of authenticity despite the […]
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“I Ain’t Saying She A Gold Digger…”
If you are a regular visitor to The Promiscious Pen you will know that I draw inspiration from an array of things most especially songs by my favourite artists , such as Kanye West (whom I used to be in love with, no really I was head over heels until Kanye became Kimye) and Drake (my […]
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Does Size Really Matter?
When I wrote the article ” The Size Of The Ring, The Price Of The ring” I mentioned that I would post a piece that I had written for a magazine about ring sizes. Here’s the “article”, although it is more like a fictitious story than anything else, but a story that resonates with our […]
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The Size of the Ring, The Price of the Ring
I’ve often been in conversations where a group of men are battling ( verbal not physical) a group of women over the importance placed on the engagement ring and the arguments tend to intensify when discussing the size and the price of the ring. In fact I wrote an article for a magazine I previously […]
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Great Women But What About Great Men?
Hi world. If you are new to my blog,welcome and if you are a frequent reader of The Promiscious Pen, namaste. This post marks the first instalment of Because I Am Woman , a category that I felt compelled to include as I noticed some of my thoughts, especially the ones pertaining to females did […]