I’ve always said that the movie He’s not that into you would make a fine addition to the curriculum of young women (please say you all have watched it, it’s quite funny and arguably life changing lol). In fact it should be made into some type of module that you have to sit an exam for in order to pass in my opinion, because many a woman have uttered these words ” I’m sure he likes me” and found it to be untrue.
This article will quash some myths about men and enlighten some women.
Women do this thing where they become friends with a man and then tell their friends that the man that they just met is all over them, when the truth is the man was just being friendly. We like to exaggerate a man’s nice gestures and read them as something they are not. The man simply smiles at us and we are so sure that the smile symbolizes something more than just a smile. The man opens a door for us and we are so certain that this signifies his undying love for us. The man offers to pay for our bus fare as we are short of money and we are positive that the man will make a move because why else would he offer to pay for our bus fare?
We exaggerate not because we are desperate or because we even want the affection. We read a man’s nice gesture as something that it is not because we cannot fathom the idea of a man being nice to us for the sake of it. So when a man says good morning to us in the sweetest way possible, we don’t see a man saying good morning we see a man proposing. However, the truth is he is just not that into you.
Then there is the woman who spots a man at her new place of work for example, that she likes. She doesn’t walk up to him because she wishes to be pursued but she does drop hints at him. He finally notices these hints and so asks her out on a date and she says yes. Whilst on the date, she does everything in her power to make him like her. She plays with her hair, giggles at his boring jokes and even offers to pay half of the meal. She gets home and tells her friends that the date was amazing, because in her head the date did go very well. The next day she waits by the phone and waits for his call. He doesn’t call. She waits by the phone the second day and waits for his call. He doesn’t call. She then summons up the courage to call him and she leaves a message. This woman like the woman I mentioned in the paragraph above is an exaggerator. She exaggerated the whole date situation, when the truth was he just wasn’t that into her!
Men can be slow but women can be slow too. Ladies let us be wise, let us wait for the man to open his mouth and say ‘I am into you’ before we make assumptions (or start planning weddings and naming the 2.5 kids we wish to have). It is not every man that wants to marry us; some men are simply being friendly.
Love Cris x